People constantly ask me if I would choose to be an entrepreneur again if I knew how difficult it would be. The answer to that question really depends on the day and the moment of that day, but I think that’s the beauty of entrepreneurship. You take the journey with its hardships and those moments that are overflowing with joy and pride. It’s like the journey we are all on called life. If you knew exactly how your life was going to pan out and essentially when you were going to leave this Earth would you want to know? That would dictate the way you do everything. You wouldn’t think of things in a natural way or make choices based on emotion.
When you decide to follow your passion, whatever it might be, you must know in your heart of hearts that you love it so much that you’re willing to put in the hard work. It doesn’t matter if you have an invention, are a chef wanting to cook private or a prospective retail store owner, you must know that you believe in yourself and you believe in what you’re doing so much that you are willing to take that journey. It might be more difficult than any relationship you’ve ever been in.
If you have any hesitation, my suggestion is that it’s not time. But if you’re all in and will give the shirt off your back because you believe in what you’re doing so much, then go on that ride. It’s going to be difficult, but it will grow and enrich your life in ways that would have never been possible otherwise. It’s important to go in with open eyes and an open heart. You must be ready to give and to receive (there is going to be A LOT of giving), but go in, enjoy the moment and be present.
When you’re an entrepreneur your job never ends and when you’re a mother your job also never ends. Trying to find a balance between these two things can be extremely difficult, but it is also very rewarding. To keep my sanity, I have three tips that are my foundation and when I put them into practice I feel like I’m never failing too much in one field.
1. Turn Off the Noise
Who cares what other people think? If you’re always coming from a good place with positive intentions, who gives a shit what they have to say?! Everyone has different ways of doing things and the right way is the way that works for you. If you find your flow and your tribe is happy then that is all that matters. For example, I keep Zelda up until around 9:30pm, which is late according to some other parent bedtimes, but that is what works for our family. I don’t get home until 6:30pm, Spiro gets home around 8pm and we both want to spend quality time with Zelda. If and when the time comes when it needs to be adjusted we will do so, but for right now it’s what works for us.
2. Set Boundaries
Don’t be afraid to say no. It’s okay if you don’t always volunteer or accept that dinner invitation. You can say no. A lot of times we feel like we have to please everyone around us and we forget that the most important person is ourselves. If you’re not fully fueled and you’re not feeling good, then it’s going to affect everyone around you (and we all know that mom runs the show). I try to say no if something doesn’t work for me or my family and I only say yes to things that I know are important to my business, important to me or are places that I really want to be.
3. Be in the Moment
There are many times when I come home and I’m overwhelmed. All I want to do is zone out, scroll through my social media and maybe binge watch a couple of shows, but I have a job to do. I have a daughter who is ready to hang out with me. And while I want to hang out with her, it’s also easy to get distracted, fall into that virtual world or take a phone call and be there but not really be there. When I come home I try to be present.
On my way home I make my phone calls, sort my thoughts and gather myself so that when I walk in the door I’m ready to roll. I’ve found that including her in things that need to be done is a really great way to spend time together, rather than her just watching TV or me. If I’m cooking dinner, I let her crack the eggs or stir the pasta. If I’m working on my computer and need to send an email, I get her little computer and she types with me. I always try to include her in what I’m doing so that she knows that I am there.
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